Tricky Being Cocky

Because canicule, my brain has switched on to energy-saving mode. It took me this long to realise that we have interestingly reached a situation where women seem to have started to dominate the agenda almost across the horizon.  As for the men, well, men of the universe, you really are not putting forward your best candidates lately, are you?

Agenda-domination is important. It is the most coveted form of influencing and having actual power. It means that people will react to whatever you are putting on the (media) market. In other words: you are setting the agenda, the others are left commenting it. This obviously takes a lot of courage.

The adjectives we use to positively praise outspoken, confident men fascinatingly refer to their genitals. We call them ballsy and cocky. Therefore it is interesting to see the same adjectives used to slam women. Without wanting to sound too much like the famous Nike-advert, the rules for women in leading positions and how they should behave are very confusing. Being cocky or ballsy is seen as robbing men of their masculinity. Being too feminine obviously is not good, either, because being female generally speaking is not a desired quality on anyone.

The worst, or obviously the best, has sneaked up on us: Women starting to dominate and steer the debate. That’s the most annoying shit ever to any insecure man. Ranting on twitter ’till you’re blue in the face is a far cry from actually setting the agenda. Or worse, being the agenda.

Let’s have a couple of recent* examples to bring home this argument of mine. I have added some interesting links for you, because you’re also likely minimising any movement at the moment as it’s too freaking hot to do anything, so surfing the net is kind of justified right now.

Global superstar change agent on climate change: Greta Thunberg

The most outspoken change-agent in the U.S. national politics: Alexandria Ocasio-Cortez

The Head of State who redefined the global standard for political emotional intelligence: Jacinda Ardern

The most talked about global entertainment spectacle as regards sexual minorities and patriarchy: Hannah Gadsby’s Nanette

The most talked about global entertainment spectacle redefining how we talk about race: Beyonce’s Homecoming

The most talked about global entertainment spectacle as regards women’s reproductive rights: TV-series based on Margaret Atwood’s Handmaid’s Tale.

The biggest global sporting superstar who’s said she’ll use her platform fighting for equality until she drops dead: Serena Williams

The biggest global sporting superstar who fights Trump’s exclusion-politics, takes political stance, fights for equal pay and  LGBTQ –rights, is overall extremely fabulous (the link is actually to an article about her stylist, Karla Welch), has a book coming, is the hottest shit + most talked about persona on every media right now: Megan Rapinoe.

On the Old Continent things aren’t too shabby, either: During the next whole five years, the EU-wide political guidelines will be decided by a woman, Ursula von der Leyen, who will take the helm of the EU’s executive arm. Christine Lagarde will have the last word on the continent’s monetary policy in the European Central Bank.

Wonder if I’m forgetting someone? Ach yes, the latest 25th James Bond will see the gorgeous Lashana Lynch as Agent 007. Oh, and Natalie Portman will play the female Thor in “Love and Thunder”.

Keep this song playing. 

* Recent, as in not including Madonna, Michelle Obama, Hillary Clinton et al. 

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