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We all know that someone who dropped everything and moved to the mountains to herd lamas. If you don’t, feel free to use me as an example, sans lamas or mountains. I recently left my job without a plan for what to do next. It was a long way coming, and I was prepared. Or so I thought.Continue reading “When You Leave Your Job Without a Plan”
Twas a tough year, January, but what seemed impossible, did finally happen, and we’re now firmly into February. February is good. It marks the lunar New Year and the Chinese New Year. I do not have strong feelings for either, but January always is bit of a test case, so I’ve taken to start my actual New Year in February.
As we embark on a new year, some with Marie Kondo, some with dry January and me, with hibernating for one more month before February, one starts craving for freshness. Satin-y conference pyjamas in rich jewel-tones no longer seem right for the season. Enter cotton poplin dresses.
Dresses in general are brilliant workwear. No hassle with buying coordinated tops and bottoms. No stress in finding the said items in the rush of the morning. A guaranteed pulled-together look. Sceptics say that one needs to have lots of dresses in circulation as opposed to having a couple of tops and bottoms to mix and match. Yes and no. I have observed male colleagues’ packing habits for work trips. They often make do with just one suit, with a daily change of shirt, for trips as long as five days. It is nonsense to think that women should change their entire garment daily.
Cotton poplin dresses are very easy, the only downside being that they tend to crease more than silk jersey and wool. Generally this is not the end of the world, though. The stripy dress below looks OK even when it’s not freshly ironed (also because it features drawstrings at the waist). I wear this dress a lot, and while it is not necessarily the most flattering shape ever, it has everything a proper dress needs to have:
Photo: Heli Sorjonen
I have a selection of Diane von Furstenberg wraps that hit the knee in my closet – the length du jour in the early 2010s. It inevitably looks too short and dated now. I’m keeping the dresses because what goes around will surely come around, but the above mid-calf length is something I’ve come to really like. It’s flattering, and I can wear the dress both with and without tights.
The pattern and colours are very subtle and classic, but I hesitated for a long time before going for something so white. The good thing is that the dress is easy to combine with almost everything. While the pattern might be a bit meh, it also comes across quite timeless.
3. Shirt collar and proper cuffs
These both make the dress look dressy and office appropriate, but also add to the versatility. I rarely wear the sleeves down, office or not. Buttoned cuffs are important. It is maddening to see how often proper cuffs are replaced by simple seams in women’s shirt dresses.
Don’t buy clothes that do not have pockets. Pocketless clothes are an anti-women conspiracy. Trousers, jackets, dresses and skirts must have pockets, otherwise they are totally pointless. Where else are we supposed to keep our hands? Our mobile phones, tissues, lip balms and coins? If there are no pockets, where are we to put the stones, if we were to walk into a river à la Virginia Woolf?
Cotton poplin is a very carefree material. Washes easy, irons easy (though must be ironed) and has a nice 50s vibe to it. The white colour of this dress means that especially the collar gets easily smudged with makeup. This can be taken care of as a separate exercise without having to wash the whole dress every other day – I use natural stain removers and hand-wash/rinse only the collar-area regularly (you will want to do this quite regularly, because makeup is literally oil and it can leave permanent stains when left unattended).
The green/white striped dress in the cover picture (and the zoom below) is also cotton poplin and by the same brand Marimekko.
Remember the bit in the Sex And the City in which Carrie told Miranda that she stores knitwear in her oven? And how that was supposed to be hilariously outlandish?
Dear reader, herewith a rare view of my fridge:
Those with excellent eyesight might spot an actual item of foodstuff there. Yes, that’s Angostura on the far left.
This might seem excessive and bizarre, even. It very possibly is. However, as much as I enjoy trying on new products and usually do not hesitate spending big monies on them, I cannot stand waste and things going rancid ahead of time. This includes perfumes that start turning.
Therefore masks and perfumes that I do not use regularly are kept in the fridge. I also find eye-masks and under-eye patches to have much more firepower when they are cold when applied.
I do not hoard. I likely have amassed a collection of skincare that exceeds what’s considered the bare minimumfor any individual, but I still don’t like stuff piling up uncontrollably. To avoid this from happening, especially as regards makeup, transparency is the operational word (it’s also a great principle for running states, international organisations and media operations). I store things in transparent containers so that I can see what I have. Unfortunately even this has not prevented me from purchasing several vaguely lavender eyeshadows in the last 6 months.
I get most of my containers at Muji. They do good quality boxes and travel packages, which brings me to the next sub-topic: if you travel regularly, be prepared at all times. I have written extensively about work traveland its various perils. Unless you have a glam-squad or a herd of ladies in waiting, you likely have a job, a life and do your own packing. You want to focus on your meetings, presentations and after dinner G&T’s, not panicking whether people will notice the absence of your deodorant because you forgot to pack it in the mad rush before scooting to the airport to catch the red-eye.
Just because you’re travelling for work does not mean you suddenly must start relying on toiletries the hotel might (or might not) provide. If you want to do that, knock yourself out. My experience of work travel is that it ain’t no picnic, though, and any stress that can be minimised in advance, must be done. I suggest you pack all you need. I’m willing to make an exception with shower-gel, though (hotel shower-gel is perfectly passable).
You will likely only be able to take carry-on, so take this into account. Get a bunch of containers for shampoo and conditioner, body cream, lotions, moisturisers, facial sprays, masks, scrubs, everything. Buy little pill-boxes for vitamins and meds. There’s no time, ever, in this universe for you to amass all the required bottles the night before your trip. Have them ready.
This is not being crazy. This is ensuring your face does not suddenly flare up, or hair do something inexplicable. These are not the biggest worries in this world, I do recognise that. However they can easily take the edge off your work performance. We’ve all been there – a ladder in tights. Emergency tampons nowhere to be had. Stressful interview or presentation, and no powder within the blast radius to blot away a shiny forehead. Life happens also when we are traveling for work.
As you can see, I also keep my makeup in a see-through bag. The one above is airtravel-approved, and frankly also makes life easier when items need to be fished out in sub-optimally lit circumstances, such as from handbags.
I keep skincare samples that come in decent sizes (such as the Diptyque-samples on the right). They can be used for overnight deals or office (although in all honesty, I’ve never had any use for them at the office). You are not alone if you’ve ever found yourself crying frustrated tears in a hotel bathroom, trying to jinx open a tiny, slippery shampoo sample-bag – I don’t even know what material they use for this purpose other than it’s evil. EVIL. Avoid. You are worthy of a cosmetics product that comes in a container that does not require you to attack it with your teeth.
Some sample body washes and facial cleansers are ideal for cleansing makeup brushes (I’m yet to buy a designated, special cleanser for this purpose. Also I almost never wash them, which is disgusting.)
So here we are. This is where I store some of my stuff. At regular intervals I also keep food in my fridge, so no need to worry.
Phew! Will be another 350-something days of peace until my daily grind again becomes punctuated by George Michael’s wailing about his Christmas heartbreaks. On a more shocking note, we’re about 24 hours away from 2019 and I’ve barely checked a few items off my “2018 to do -list“.
I am hopeless with sticking to New Year’s resolutions, but have decided to work on the following:
Having answers to easy questions.
My job, if you wish to simplify it, is mainly to answer questions. Thus you’d be excused for supposing that I have a knack for being able to muster a response to pretty much anything that comes with a question-mark in the end. I have no problem with taking people’s breath away with lengthy elaborations on issues of ridiculously technical complexity. However, I freeze to the point of debilitating cul-de-sac when surprised with the following:
What do you want?
I bet we all can easily come up with a long list of items to place under the headline “things that I do not want”. But turn it around. If you could want anything, what would it be? If prompted by a “if you are allowed to dream really big now, what would you want to be, do and have?“, would you be willing and able to say it out loud?
I am about to finish a career coaching process, which greatly helped me with rehearsing a response to such a question. More importantly, the process showed me why it is important to have the reply figured out, even if no-one asks. I was as sceptical as anyone in the beginning. Used to mulling things over in my own head with the sporadic help of self help and occasionally a friend and a bottle of wine (also known as the birth of all brilliant ideas), I was convinced I would essentially be wasting my money.
Well, no surprises here: I wish I’d come up with the idea earlier. Much. Earlier. It’s a bit like hiring a personal trainer or a nutritionist. We do know how to lift dumbbells and operate the majority of appliances at a regular gym. We do know that we cannot subsist on crisps and wine alone. In principle we also do know how to cut hair, but still sometimes it is a better idea to pay a professional to give a hand to achieve optimal results.
That’s how I feel about coaching. Instead of ending up in an exhausting exasperation after
days years of to and fro inside my head, there was a professional by my side to help me find my way out (the coach is not there to take any decisions for me, I still have to do all the pesky work myself, but she’s there to see that I do not fall back into the loop).
There’s another question that deserves preparing for, as it is likely to materialise in the most surprising of situations:
Tell us about yourself.
How can something so benign-sounding be so horribly difficult to reply to? “I was born in this small town…” and you’ve lost your audience. (By the way, have you ever paid attention to the trendy phenomenon of “storytelling” that has spread like pest? How each and everyone has been taught to start their interventions with “I’m a storyteller”, which very often ends up being a poor excuse for a spur-of-a-moment, non-rehearsed, structureless ramble that is supposed to come across as a story, just because it lacks all the characteristics of a presentation?)
”I have a long experience from this field…” – thanks, but we’ve already seen your CV. And even if we haven’t, what you’re saying is remotely not interesting. Why do you babble on about what you have accomplished in your professional life when all I asked you was to tell me about yourself?
In short, we are talking about mastering the skill of replying to simple questions “who are you?” and “what do you want?“. Both sound so terribly simple but are far from it. Also, I cannot help but wonder what it says about a person if she cannot reply to either of them? On the other hand, acing these two questions quite possibly holds the fundaments to pretty much everything else we’re ever being asked.
So, here you are. With this short introduction, which hopefully didn’t come across too consultant-y or Linkedin-y, that’s something I am going to work on next year.
Photo: Heli Sorjonen
The annual work trip bootcamp is getting closer and preparations are stepping up. Today it’s about the face – body was dealt with in a previous post. I have but one advise: hydration. Regardless where you travel and for what reason, you’ll never go wrong with extra hydration.
In most cases work travel accommodation conditions are not much different from any other trip – you’ll be staying in a hotel, which is likely to have running water and a mirror. However, you will be mostly on the road, and for good parts of the day separated from your belongings (I’m not saying I have all my stuff on me all day every day when I’m not traveling – what I’m saying is that there is no office desk drawer that houses makeup and other things for touch-ups during the day).
I have come to notice that slotting in even the shortest quarter of an hour for checking hair, makeup and the state of one’s tights in the daily work trip itinerary generally speaking is impossible.
Thus be prepared for anything, and have your routine mastered so that it takes a nanosecond to do, and that it an be performed to perfection anywhere, usually with random people looking on. Good places to practise: rush-hour metro/tram/bus or in the toilet of a (moving) train or an airplane. The latter two are particularly challenging because of the ghastly lighting.
We shall rule out any kind of wild experiments, which are much welcome at any other time. The main goal is to look presentable and fresh when feeling exactly the opposite.
Anything that does not smudge, budge or make you look like a cakey extra from the Addams Family can be packed along. I like the Glossier Stretch Concealer that I often use together with Laura Mercier’s Tinted Moisturiser for a light yet lasting base.
I have taken to love whatever Hourglass do – Ambient Lighting Palette is an old favourite (not too dark, not too red). Their highlighters are of fantastic quality, and should you need to look decent on camera/in pictures, they work really well for that. They give the right amount of sheen without being Saturday Night Fever spectacular. So the palette is coming with.
For eyes the quick go-tos are Fenty Beauty Pro Filt’r that ensures any eyeshadow is not moving anywhere until I absolutely want it to – I am talking about round-the-clock durability here. A very subtle eyeshadow I’ve come to love is by Kjaer Weis, in shade Angelic. German organic brand und Gretel have interesting makeup, and I like their multi-use Creme Eye Stick, which is a surprisingly nice coppery tone (it only comes in one shade) also for pale skin and blue eyes.
I always pack a ton of lip products regardless where I am going, ranging from balms to lip liners and lipsticks. They are the quickest and easiest way to either divert focus from my bloodshot, tired eyes or to simply take the makeup situation to another level (red lip = never fails, though it’s high maintenance. Always have a compact mirror at hand).
A quick pick me up: Spritz face with a mist. Caudalie’s Grape Water spray is excellent for this, and it comes in a handy travel size.
As for skincare, I have no surprises here. Everything needs to perform and nothing must break out my skin. The products in the picture make for a very solid selection of skincare to be taken for a work trip – there are no masks and/or scrubs, but I find there’s never time for them. Also, they tend to take up rather a lot of space, unless one decants everything in small Muji – containers (which brings us to the time – situation again).
After a lengthy break I wanted to try new stuff by Sunday Riley, and find their Ceramic Slip Cleanser to be really good. Gentle, effective, very mildly scented, works both evenings and mornings. As a second cleanse, which can also double as a (quick) treatment I use 9 Oil Cleansing Tonic. Autocorrect by Sunday Riley is a great eye cream for tired and puffy eyes.
For the day it’s Odacité’s All-Embracing Serum first, followed by de Mamiel Daily Hydrating Nectar mixed with the legendary carrot seed oil by Odacité. In the evenings I find Vintner’s Daughter to be enough.
These are all very potent products that deliver in unusual circumstances. I have tried taking sheet masks to trips (thinking why not because they hardly take up space), but cannot really say they would deliver much improvement as far as extra hydration is concerned.
Top tip: Forget about in-flight beauty treatments
The classic beauty-blog travel tip of applying either sheet masks and/or other visible treatment ointments on your face when boarding an aircraft is rarely an option on a work trip. Especially if you are seated next to your boss who wants to go through the briefings during the flight.